The Importance of Compliments

The giving and receiving of compliments is a very important aspect of human relationships. They are a simple yet effective method of offering positive feedback to those that we interact with. When a compliment is given to someone close to us it reinforces the bonds that we share with them and helps to solidify the relationship. 

The use of compliments or the absence of them can determine the mood for relationships that we are involved in. Compliments are a powerful social mediator and a very important part of the relationships that we form.

Where as criticism will cause the development of negative feelings such as insecurity or anger; a compliment will create a positive response in those that we interact with. 

A well placed compliment can offer reassurance to the individual and potentially even a reasoning for them to pursue or continue a relationship. There are a number of reasons why it is important to compliment the people that you care about but let's suffice to say that maintaining a positive relationship with someone is one of the most important benefits of a compliment.

Flattery will get you everywhere. Ask any husband if telling his wife that she is getting fat will net him better results than telling her she is beautiful. The answer is obvious. A well placed compliment by the husband will allow his wife to feel secure within herself and their relationship and will garner him a positive response in return. 

By complimenting his wife on a regular basis a husband can insure that their relationship will persevere over any negative influences that may occur within it. Compliments are a positive factor in relationships and an extremely important means of insuring our success within them.
Where children are concerned this cementing of the relationship with well placed compliments is equally important. Although a parent <–> child relationship is largely held together by dependency the emotions of love and hate play a very important role in how the future of the relationship will play out. 

Early positive affirmation gives children the incentive to pass this encouragement on to others that they come in contact with thus compliments can actually give children the skills needed to develop and maintain their future relationships.


Compliments also play a very important role in a child’s development. By complimenting your children on their accomplishments, you encourage them to pursue further challenges, and to strive for further successes. 

While constructive criticism of children is important, too much negativity can leave a child feeling insecure and afraid to move forward in life because they may fail at the task set before them. Compliments give children the positive re-enforcement needed to move forward as secure individuals.

When it comes to business contacts there is a very obvious benefit to complimenting those that we interact with. A well placed contact can garner us secure employment, a more respected position, or even increased monetary benefits. 

A study conducted on the effect of compliments on clients found that hairstylists could receive an increase in their tips simply by saying a few complimentary words to their clientele. Compliments work. They not only make the person bestowed with the compliment feel better about themselves but they also insure us a more positive position within the relationship.

Man likely learned the reasoning behind complimenting those that he interacted with pretty early in the game of life. As the member of a small social group he would have been very dependent on the other members of his tribe for survival. 

Being part of a group or tribe would have meant greater safety from an external attack and an increased opportunity for success within hunting excursions. This beneficial social interaction would better increase his odds of surviving in the primitive world. 

Criticizing those that he existed with could have meant immediate death or banishment from the tribe. Where as a well placed compliment could have earned him increased favors, food, and status within the group. Offending those close to him was not a very good idea and this learned behavior carries on today. 

Compliments are a very important part of insuring our place in society. Compliments don’t cost anything to give so insure that you give out at least one or two every day. They really are an important component to include in our daily social interactions.
 
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